At the start of 2020, we had no idea that an apocalyptic-movie-esque virus pandemic would take over the world. Kobe was still with us, the stock market was afloat and Trump was still president.
So much has changed in our personal lives too. Maybe you were in a completely different school, CCA, job, house or even country. Maybe you were in a relationship, a friendship or a situationship that you have since lost.
Photo via @definitelynotdarla on TikTok
In early 2023, TikTok users started hopping on the trend of creating videos of skits wherein they have conversations with their 2020, 2021 or 2022 selves. Introspection in this form gets users to take past events into account and gain perspective.
The ‘conversation’ is written out in text while viewers listen to the wistful sound of a guitar excerpt from ‘Evergreen’ by indie musicians Richy Mitch & The Coal Miners.
Most users discuss their past relationships, friendships and friend groups. There are also some who talk about big life changes like cancelled engagements, weight and lifestyle changes, and even being disabled.
Photo via @tacotruckk on TikTok
A handful of users also talk about how these changes happen for the better or improved different areas of their lives. With Kenzi, the end of her relationship resulted in her “growing so consistently ever since”.
In the video, Kenzi’s 2021 version was shocked and asked “how are you doing?” But her 2023 version laughs and says she should have left the relationship much earlier.
Photo via @kkennzii on TikTok
Her caption reads: “I’m grateful for the lessons but… I am so blessed to be on my own again.”
Over time, we tend to understand why things in the past had to happen. Events that appear negative and full of loss may end up leading us to a better situation or mindset altogether in the future if we trust the process.
Here’s a pocket size tip for keeps.
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